My friend gave me a magic wand. It’s pink and blue and green with beads and wires crossing and intersecting. It loops, it twirls, and it is tangly and colorful and beautiful! She made it herself out of her daughter’s beads and bobbles from various art projects. It’s not really what we think a magic wand would look like, but, then again, magic can do whatever it wants to do! I guess it really could be anything you want it to be…but she told me it’s a magic wand and I believe her.
Ahh…a magic wand.
Remember when we were girls and the magic wand was a romantic, mystical part of our fantasy world? We were drawn by the wonders around us, looking toward that magical world when we would one day be women, the prince appearing to propel us away to lavish lives and see over our everyday cares?
As we matured the inevitable day came when we realized that the prince is a childhood myth and the magic is within ourselves. No more fairy tales. And that’s okay, too. How could we grow, learn and experience life if we gave all of our being up to that imaginary prince, anyway?
When I see that magic wand, handmade and given to me in friendship, it gives me pause. We all want a little magic, we wanted it as girls and we still want it as women. The difference is that, as women, we know that we can be the creators of the magic. And we’ve learned that when we create our own magic, we can share it with others.
We can share a certain magic through the daily acts of kindness that come from looking within our hearts and listening to the voice of compassion. Magic comes through the possibilities we create for others by minute acts of kindness- small things like complementing the harried sales clerk during the holidays, telling the bank clerk we appreciate that she knows our name and does her job well, and sharing business and connections with our women friends which makes a statement of support and trust. It can all be magical.
Are kindness, support and caring magical? They’re probably not. But, I still suggest that the presence of a magic wand in your life just might help you remember that feeling of magic and remind you that creating it for the people in your life is magical after all!
Create a little magic in your life.
- List events from your childhood you thought seemed magical. Remember the feeling of awe or excitement they brought to you: a snowy Christmas evening; an early spring morning; a special birthday present; a chance meeting with someone bigger than life; or, someone who brought you a surprise. What feelings did you have? Excitement? Giddiness? Wonderment?, Awe?
- Reflect on the feelings of those childhood magical moments. Now take a look at your life today. What events or happenings have occurred to you since you have been an adult that had that “magical” effect?
- We all love magical moments. Define what a “magical” moment would mean for you at this stage of your life. Don’t be too practical…it’s magic after all.
- How can you create magic for yourself? Can you create it through writing that song you’ve always wanted to write? Learning how to cook Japanese food? Organizing a group to feed the homeless? Volunteering to help the elderly? Become a coach for women to reach goals they’ve always wanted to achieve? What works for your life that recreates those magical feelings of childhood?
- Pick one magic goal. You can create your own, step by step. Start your plan to get that magic yourself. What’s the first, second and third steps you need to do to make that happen.
And don’t forget to create a little magic for others. It can be as simple as a smile or as complicated as a college plan. It’s yours to choose.
I’m here to help you, just contact me.